Intro to Codependence

Chapter 11: Building Healthy Boundaries

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Hello everyone! I apologize for the delay for those who are following along. We had a great class on boundaries last Tuesday, and I want to remind you that next week is our final session. You are welcome to move over to our Thursday class based on A House that Grace Built as we deal “room” by “room” on the different relationship issues. It begins at 9;30 am as opposed to 10:30. Also, a reminder that I will be offering a training seminar on Saturday, February 21st for anyone who wants to learn how to run a group. You can join this session for free for educational purposes. It’s $40 if you want to get a certificate (test required), and that cost includes either a digital or hard copy book.

Getting back on subject, boundaries was intense! It always is! We had to re-think and look at the concept of boundaries with biblical insight, but then practically apply to our lives. It’s a little crazy when you start to embrace the realities! Boundaries is tricky business! I encourage you to watch this as I couldn’t possibly explain the concepts we covered. I think you will really enjoy the way we can maneuver through this with solid biblical principles that draw us back into our real life situations.

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AHTGB Chapter 10: The Filter of Redemption

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Hello everyone! Here it begins! We will be reviewing relationships in more specific ways in the next few weeks. This class gave us somewhat of a “formula” for how we can begin to deal and process through the issues each relational room will contain. This process is meant to give us the ability to heal from the past, and forge more healthy relationships in the future. But processes of the heart can’t be simply taught in a 1, 2, 3, step manner. God knows where you are, what you have been through and the areas that need deeper healing. He isn’t comparing you or aligning you with an expectation of how it should look right now. Rather, right now all we want to do is invite Him in. He reveals, He will lead us through the journey that is specific for us. My prayer is that you will be steadfast in His love towards you. That you will learn to allow Him to access: and to understand the enormity of His surgical capability when you do so.

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Chapter 10: Embracing Authentic Identity

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in this class we began by discussing the important subject of “systems.” The goal of recovery isn’t so much that we fix the external behaviors and circumstances, but rather that we learn to move away from a system of shame, and take hold of a system of grace.

As grace is activated and real in our lives, God desires to form Himself in us and then set us back into alignment to our design. This isn’t something that we should feel is foreign or strange. Rather, it should be a holy relief to finally be given the right and permission to be who God created us to be. There is no ability to measure the extent of this gift. Authentic identity is about being in unity with God’s heart, and having access to His point of view, His purposes, His calling. It’s about walking out a destiny that was created specially and uniquely for us.

If you haven’t yet met yourself and find yourself still in the condition of “identity theft”, simply press ahead. Don’t give up on the miracle of your God-given identity and purpose. It will come.

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Chapter 9: The Doorway of Redemption

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I can’t think of a better message to return to after being away for a few weeks. The utter magnitude and enormity of this subject left me to practically drop down in the middle of this class to worship King Jesus. I don’t think the reality of grace or the significance it plays in our healing process could ever be something we hear too much. My prayer is that your spiritual heart, not the intellect, will be moved and touched through this teaching. This is in every sense a doorway: we move on to the extent that we have received the blessed reality of redemption.

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AHTGB: Chapter 8: Assessing Intimacy Courts

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Special guest speaker Becky Sansilo shares her journey, and teachers on the concepts of Chapter 8! This is a beautiful example of God’s grace working itself out in a real and tangible way. Understanding the overall picture of your intimacy courts will prepare you to seek the remedy. Don’t be discouraged by what God reveals. Seeing is always the first step of healing.

I pray this will bless you as it did our class.

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Chapter 9: Offering the Gift of Forgiveness

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This class highlighted important truths not just about forgiving others, but about the nature of authentic healing. In recovery, we don’t simply “forgive” people in an obligatory manner. Rather, we must learn to forgive by dealing with the violations for the damage they imposed,  and being given permission to both hate and hurt over it. Then, we must learn to forgive in the manner that Jesus forgave us. This process isn’t easy, but I can assure you it’s worth it. I believe this is where Jesus can meet us more than any other. To learn the heart of Jesus is to understand that He doesn’t call us to forgive from afar, but He walks with us in our pain, and teaches us to forgive because it will in fact lead to our own freedom. I pray this will bless you.

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Prepare for Chapter 10, however I will extend this class over two weeks as I want to recap on the redemption class because of the many distractions that have occurred.

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Chapter 8: Receiving Forgiveness

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Learning how to walk in forgiveness is at the heart of all forms of redemption. Forgiveness is the doorway, the access point to all true freedom. This class was pre-recorded and then played to a live class/webinar two weeks ago. It is in YouTube format as opposed to our normal webinar. We are testing this new system and will continue to upgrade and improve the quality before launching it in the future! After this week, we will return to the webinar format.

For those of you praying for my husband’s heart surgery. Thank you so much! He’s been completely restored, he’s home, active and feeling better than ever!

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AHTGB Chapter 6: Learned Intimacy Styles

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Welcome back! We entering into the intensity of intimacy styles. My experience has been that discussing this subject can be painful. I don’t say that to discourage, but rather to set reasonable expectations. However, I also feel that being able to diagnose this area establishes how God can heal us directly at our point of need. In working in a treatment/recovery arena for ten years, I can honestly say these issues are what hurt the heart the most. They are also the very places where God injects His solution and loving intents into our lives. By recognizing God’s purposes, and by seeing our own breakdowns, we can begin to place the overlay of grace on top. At this point, we don’t need to try to fix anything other than let the Holy Spirit give us a heart understanding of our needs.

I went back to this Jesus picture because I feel that He wants to rescue each one of us as a child. This is such a beautiful picture of the nurturing that can be done as we place our hope and trust in Him. Remember, in childhood we were vulnerable and couldn’t make choices for ourselves. That’s why understanding how the “child” in us was injured is so important. Eventually we will go into those places of hurt and actually let Jesus bring a remedy.

I know it’s deep. I know it might hurt. But it will be worth it.

The next two weeks I’ll be away as we are preparing for my husband’s surgery on Tuesday. Prayerfully, I will be able to maintain a recording for those who follow along. If there is a delay, rest assured it will be caught up with in the near future. Our live class and webinar will remain in tact. You’ll be hearing from two amazing ladies these next few weeks!

May God bless and keep you in His goodness and grace.

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Chapter 7: Facing Shame

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There was a certain show I used to love to watch that had a modern-day Jesus as the theme. It showed how Jesus would talk, interact and deal with people. They tried to illustrate His heart and how He in general viewed people. He was filled with the language of grace, had compassionate affection and never judged people to condemn their behavior. Rather He interacted to reach, restore and heal. I found it to be so accurate to my own understanding of Jesus today. How often He is misrepresented in our head and heart! How often we mistake the voice of the enemy as the voice of God!

Our discussion on shame could seem negative in topic, but actually this class focused on the real nature of God’s redemptive language. The enemy is a liar. He comes to create false messaging and hold into bondage to our sense of being “not good enough.” There are many reasons for being recipients of shame, but no matter its origin God’s goal is eradication. God wants to re-message our lives with life, hope and peace. He wants to become the great “I Am” for our every need, so we are reliant not on ourselves, but on His grace.

On another note, please pray for my husband as he will undergo heart surgery on Tuesday, January 13th. We will have class as usual (I will obviously not be there), and if you are registered you will receive details! Thank you in advanced for your prayers!

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